Thanks for your Friend Request – but do I Know You?

With the explosion of Social Networking sites such as Twitter and Facebook – it’s becoming easier to connect with people. And people like to send a friend request straight away.

I put myself out there across a number of channels – you can find me on Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Pinterest and others.

I advertise this fact via the web, e-mail signatures and business cards.

And I encourage people to get in touch with me using whatever method they prefer.

More often than not I find that these connections take the form of cementing a relationship I’ve already begun off-line. That’s usually from meeting people at a networking event, conference, or trade show.

Most people naturally ping a friend request off using their tool or tools of choice. It’s not unusual for me to meet somebody new, they follow me on Twitter, send an e-mail follow-up and a LinkedIn connection request.

Multiple Platforms

This is fine, and using tools such as AgoraPulse makes it easy for me to update my status on multiple sites at once.

For instance, some of my personal status updates go to Twitter and Facebook, professional updates to Twitter and LinkedIn, and others to all sites.

And I get responses back through all mediums. I know a lot of people who use LinkedIn, or Twitter, but not Facebook.

However, it really doesn’t matter . So long as we’re connected we can continue our conversation in whatever way is most convenient!

Is it too Easy to Send a Friend Request?

So it’s easy to connect with me and I actively encourage it. But is it too easy?

I’ve noticed a growing trend of receiving a friend request from someone I simply don’t know.

The request comes with no introduction, other than the boilerplate: “I would like to connect with you.”

And whilst I can usually work out who the individual is by a sleuthing process of finding mutual contacts, industry relationships or just plain old Googling on their names, I still find the process bemusing!

Imagine for a moment you walked up to somebody at a traditional business networking event, said nothing, thrust your business card into their hand, and walked away.

What do you think that persons reaction would be? Probably a little mystified, right? So here’s my question:

Why would their reaction to a request in the online world, without any introduction, be any different?

Getting a Boiler Plate Friend Request

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not offended or annoyed by these people reaching out to contact me – but it all feels so… generic!

My reaction to these types of requests is nearly always the same, “Thanks for the request – where do we know one another from?”.

Quite often the response comes back “We don’t, but we’ve a mutual friend in…” and so the conversation continues. Wouldn’t it have been easier to take 30 seconds to type that introduction in so it was included with the initial request?

Then there’s people who don’t respond to my polite request for a conversation at all. That feels a lot like you’ve been randomly clicking on buttons, rather than trying to actually connect with people!

Here’s the thing – visiting a networking event in person isn’t about collecting as many business cards as possible. It’s about making quality connections, and using social networking is exactly the same. Don’t connect for the sake of making yourself look popular!

Conclusion

So – I encourage you to connect with me online in whatever way you feel best, and don’t be afraid to reach out to me to start a conversation.

But please… at least give me a hint as to why we should be connecting! 🙂

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